EP59 Your Partner: Do They Know The Real You‪?‬ Fearlessly Fertile Podcast

As lovably Type A, control-freaky, perfectionists, we know a thing or two about putting on our “game-face” as we live this journey. However, we can get so good at it that we end up hiding what’s REAL for us—particularly with the person we are supposed to be closest to. Learn a universal truth that will be like miracle-grow for your relationship, at a time when you need it most!



Transcript:

Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.



I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it's time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 59.



Your partner, do they know the real you? Hey loves, I hope this podcast finds you and yours healthy and safe. With all of us cooped up in our houses for weeks now, chances are it's probably been a long time since you've spent this much time with your partner in such close proximity. Seriously, most of us only spend this number of hours with our partner on vacay.



And that's likely cushioned with a cocktail and exciting new surroundings to keep us from getting under each other's skin. When we're at home, we don't have that exact dreamy, gauzy goodness to put a rosy tint on our intimate relationship. Now, that's not to say it sucks to be around your partner this much.



Personally, I fucking love it. I gobble up the time with my husband on his days off like Nutella on sourdough toast. Part of the reason for that is he knows the real me. One of the biggest lessons we learned on our journey was to put our cards on the table. We are both straight shooters who have little patience for bullshit.



But in the early days of our relationship and this journey, we were so discombobulated by what it was throwing at us that our fear had us in massive avoidance. When it came to our relationship and the big issues we faced, it was like we were tangling through a minefield. I was so afraid of what he might be thinking about me, our prospects, and where our relationship would be at the end of all of this.



I also didn't want to show him I was afraid. I didn't want to burden him with my fear. I was also so used to being in my masculine that frankly, I didn't really know how to be vulnerable around him, without being utterly disgusted by what I perceived as my own weakness. I didn't really know how to access that part of me.



I was way too busy trying to get pregnant like a man, and if this shit's resonating with you, check out episode 23, where I talk about this syndrome that tends to plague those of us that are lovably type A control freaky high achievers on this journey. Don't miss it. It's life changing shit, and it's the kind of thing that doesn't get talked about enough.



The point is, I wasn't giving my husband a chance to see the real me. The real, real me. Most of us are scared shitless about this. It doesn't matter whether or not you have a great relationship, or if your shit is falling apart. We tend to pick and choose what our partner gets to see about our truth. But in the end, the whole truth is, They're gonna find out.



I have had thousands of conversations with women on this journey. I have heard some shit that even my years as a prosecutor didn't prepare me for.